Bouncing Back from Bad News
All of us have to deal with bad news sometimes, and that includes dealing with rejection at work or in your job search.
Hearing bad news and feeling rejected can make you feel miserable. And telling yourself it doesn’t matter, or that you aren’t bothered, is not going to help you. Instead of bottling up your emotions, it is good to let them out and then move on. So having someone that you trust to whom you can express your disappointment really does help. If no one is around, then writing it all down in private is useful..
Don’t feel guilty or that you are necessarily to blame. For example, in job search, you will know from what we have written here recently just how crude recruitment procedures can be. Lots of very good candidates get screened out for less than good reasons. But you should try to get feedback and learn from the experience in case there is something useful for next time.
Look for the positives in the experience. For example, did you learn some useful information in your research? Have you met new people that you can now add to your network? Have your learned new skills? Reflecting on the real positives will help build up your confidence after the knock.
Above all, know that you are not alone. Rejection happens all the time in life and learning to deal with it is a key life skill. Certainly these days it is a key skill in job search. But if you find yourself getting in stuck on the downward slope, find someone to talk to – either a trusted friend or a coach like me.
Now onwards and upwards – it is good to keep occupied rather than ruminating on what has happened. The world is still full of possibilities. Don’t miss them by taking yourself out of the game – commit to bouncing right back.
Don’t forget I offer a free half hour coaching session by phone or Skype to members of this group.
I wish all those starting out on, or a continuing, a job search this week every success.